Colin Kaepernick Must Die

When I was a kid growing up in the Los Angeles suburbs, every morning at our public school we started the day with the Pledge of Allegiance.  Our teacher would lead us in our secular prayer to the flag as we stood, hand over heart, and mouthed the memorized words declaring our dedication to our flag and country.  We all did this, every morning, except this one kid.

One kid sat there while we all prostrated ourselves to the flag in the corner of the classroom.

As kids, sans filters, we asked him why he wouldn’t stand?  Why didn’t he utter the sacred words we were required to?  What was wrong with him?  Why was he special?

He, of course, replied that he was a Jehovah Witness – which for us was a useless piece of information.  We would have had a better understanding had he simply said he was from the planet Xenu.  Pressed, he had to explain that his religion didn’t allow him to salute the flag, or stand at attention and say the Pledge.

That kid had a rough go of it.

He was the oddball.  Everyone looked at him, for the rest of the school year, as though he had shit his pants.


My aunt married a Jehovah’s Witness.  They raised two kids, my cousins.  They never celebrated birthdays or Christmas, and of course, they didn’t salute the flag or say the Pledge.  They were weird.  As I was getting older, these were younger cousins, I never blamed them – after all, it wasn’t their fault they were raised by shit bag Jehovah Witnesses that used their religion as a crutch to avoid patriotism and civics. I always felt sorry for my baby cousins.

Years later, I joined the Army.  You don’t get more patriotic than that…  I visited my aunt and uncle while on leave, probably after basic training in the 1980’s.  My uncle – the spurious bastard responsible for corrupting my family with his shitty religion – was full of questions about firing different weapons and how cool it must have been. He talked about how much he would love to have the opportunity to do that, except, well, his religion wouldn’t allow it…

I got a steady infusion of vitriol from family and friends directed at Jehovah Witnesses.  How they shouldn’t be allowed to live in this country.  After all, they reaped all the benefits of citizenship without participating in their civic duties.  That wasn’t right or fair.  And, they weren’t even real Christians! The only proper thing for them to do was to pack their bags, sell their homes, and move to the Soviet Union.

Then there’s Colin Kaepernick – a horrible human being if there ever was one.

This guy, I mean, this guy doesn’t even have religion to use as an excuse for not standing for the National Anthem before a preseason football game!

He’s worse than a communist or a Jehovah’s Witness – he’s Satan incarnate.

Everyone is lining up, like in the movie Airplane, to smack him!  Here he is, this smug bastard, making millions to play the national sport and he can’t show enough respect to stand during the Anthem.  At best we should deport him – he’s adopted after all, do we actually know he was born here?  Doesn’t matter – we should revoke his citizenship and send him somewhere else – anywhere else…

But if we’re doing it for him, we shouldn’t let Jehovah Witnesses escape our collective outrage.  Round them up, along with the illegals – send them all back to Mexico, or Guatemala, or Canada!  Anywhere but here.

Who else doesn’t think like us? Muslims – out (and stay out!).  Indians?  As my father liked to differentiate – we’re talking dots, not feathers – probably shouldn’t be here.  Japanese?  Caught us with our pants down 75 years ago – get out!  Chinese?  Hmm, that’s a tougher one – after all, fried rice and General Tso’s Chicken is pretty good… Okay, the Chinese can stay.

Alright, enough of the witty sarcasm.  Time to roll up the sleeves and get serious for a moment.

First a question:  Why is the National Anthem played before sporting events?  Why is the military involved?  There is nothing – NOTHING – inherently governmental or military-related to a sporting event.  This is simply an opportunistic way of exploiting patriotism and support for ‘Merica and the military.  Let’s welcome back Sgt Snuffy from his tour to Afghanistan ***CLAP CLAP CLAP***  Look there, Airman Jones is surprising his family after 15 months away fighting for your rights ***Cue the applause*** Hey, are you getting a beer?  Can you grab me one too?  Hot Dogs here!  Getchyer Hot Dogs!

You know what I find far more offensive than Kaepernick not standing for the National Anthem?  This:


I can’t begin to explain why this pisses me off, but I’ll give it a shot.

This Sergeant understands the deal – that being, he enlisted in the U.S. Marine Corps knowing full well what the risks were and knowing that his purpose was to defend America and our allies from our enemies.  He wasn’t defending land, he was defending the rights of citizens and the Constitution of the United States.  He was defending Colin Kaepernick’s right to not stand for the Anthem.

However, internet memes being what they are, a sense of outrage invoked that, in a moment, without rational thought, must be shared to express anger or support to cause.  After all, this Marine is heroic – the antithesis of Kaepernick.

A couple weeks ago the internet lost its shit when an American gymnast failed to put her hand over heart as the team received its gold medal.

Imagine if the internet was around some 48 years ago – what would have been the social media reaction to this?


Mexico City, 1968 Olympics

How dare these high paid athletes disrespect the National Anthem of America with their Black Power fist pump?  OK, they’re amateurs and not paid professionals, but still…

This is simply the outrage du jour, until the next thing to get pissed off about gets presented in meme format and shared.

People need to take a deep pause before mindlessly sharing their pissed-offedness.  Think for a moment – those of you who are just so angry that Kaepernick is sitting during the Anthem, would you like Congress to pass a law that requires everyone to stand, hats removed, right hand directly over their heart, feet together, legs straight, no slouching, head held high, proper flag saluting posture anytime the Anthem, or Lee Greenwood, is played?

Heck, if that’s what you want, let’s just elect Hitler for president and be done with it.

While we’re at it – we can have security detain every asshole I see at sporting events that fails to remove their cap, or chit chats with their seatmate, or takes a quick sip of their drink while the Anthem is played.

The First Amendment means something people. Invariably, someone is bound to get offended by someone else expressing their opinion – especially if that opinion doesn’t jive with their own.  It’s almost funny how the same people that are so vocal about  not being politically correct are the very ones up in arms on this issue.  But that Marine knows what’s what.  He knows that the freedoms he lost his legs protecting was so that crappy NFL quarterbacks, like Colin Kaepernick, have the freedom to express themselves–just like everyone else in this country.

But if you don’t understand that, maybe we should just string Kaepernick up… Oh wait, those days are behind us…





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How Does It Happen?

I was deeply religious as a kid.  Maybe it was the age, the era, but I was fascinated with (and scared by) the Book of Revelation. I must have read Hal Lindsey’s Late Great Planet Earth a dozen times. Motivated by my fear of the eminent apocalypse, I cold called churches throughout Denver urging pastors to spread the word and prepare their flocks.  I remember making a dozen or so calls before giving up.  My dire warnings were met with largely polite disregard.

As I got older, I often pondered how an informed public could be deceived by the coming antichrist.  Biblical prophecy was very clear that “the beast” would wield full control over the world and for three and one half years, appearing to be a miracle worker before everything goes to, well, hell in a hand basket in the most literal sense.  Apocalyptic scholars differ on the nature of the antichrist – some see it, rather clearly, as the papacy, while others envision a charismatic charlatan that will rise to power and conquer the world.

But how could people not see through such a person?  Surely, an intelligent and/or knowledgeable public would see right through such a leader.

Alas, history shows us there is plenty of evidence as to how individuals rise up, with the support of the crowd, to wreak havoc. If anything, it should serve as a warning that the public, in its fickleness, will gravitate to those that appeal to our basest of desires. It explains how Adolph Hitler, and Benito Mussolini came to power.  It explains the popularity of Vladimir Putin in Russia.  It explains the base of support currently enjoyed by Donald Trump.

To be perfectly clear, I’m not comparing Donald Trump to the antichrist, or Hitler, Mussolini, or even to Putin.  That’s not the point.  This is an attempt to understand the appeal such people have with the masses that vaults them to power in the first place.

Probably the greatest single tool Donald Trump employees is his refusal to kowtow to political correctness.  His commitment to anti-PC speech may eventually be his undoing,  finding new lines to cross making admirers grimace and shake their heads.  He may have crossed the Rubicon in his latest exchange with the Khan family; however, his track record to date suggests he’ll have future opportunities to inflame and enrage.

To his supporters, Trump’s rhetoric continues to have appeal.  He will not be cowed by a liberal media to walk back comments. It lends to a certain level of authenticity, a “I don’t care who I offend, I’m going to say what I think.”

In broad swathes of the country, there are citizens, voters, that are frankly fed up by the PC-police telling them what they can or cannot say.  Trump is the embodiment of that frustration. A manifestation of the intolerance of the liberal left. Sam Harris, in his brilliant deconstruction of Trump, offered “What I see, in the love for Trump among smart people–not racist dummies—is a total loss of patience for political correctness.”

This is the same portion of the electorate that cannot understand the incessant need to apologize for every past wrong committed by the nation.  They respond to “Black Lives Matter” with “All Lives Matter.” They see the removal of the Confederate Flag from statehouses as an unnecessary and reactionary response to the deranged act of a single individual.  They are fed up with progressives who are bent on changing the very fabric of the country they care so deeply about.

In addition to all this, they are above all sick and tired of being derided, or called bigots, for holding counter-progressive views.

This is not an insignificant portion of the public.  This is the same voting bloc that propelled Richard Nixon to the presidency in 1968 — the Silent Majority that expressed their disfavor with the unruliness and disorder of the antiwar, civil rights-loving, hippies of the 1960’s.  Even if they agreed with the ultimate agendas, they were against the means used to achieve the end. They see protests as provocation for violence, and question the motives behind the change.

In a hearts and minds campaign, how do you begin to address their concerns?

Today’s social justice warriors, the practitioners of limiting free speech, believe that only through shaming, or taking away livelihoods of those unwilling to see the world through their narrow view, will lead to the change necessary to move the country forward. However, their tactics fuel a counter reaction to their movement’s detriment – largely because they are unorganized, lack a coherent end state or goal, and fail miserably at winning the hearts and minds of those segments of the population needed to ensure change sticks.  They may win battles, but their prospects for winning the war are improbable.

There is, unquestionably, an attractiveness of a candidate that is unafraid to say what’s on his mind, refusing to self-censor, and tell it like it is.  This appeals strongly with those that wish to similarly express themselves, but do not out of fear of being labeled a bigot.  If Donald Trump triumphs, a new era of anti-PC might follow, and holding tongues may no longer be a requirement of being an American.

There are, however, a couple problems with this construct. First, not all minds are created equally.  Even among his most ardent supporters, Trump says things that make them cringe.  They are then left to defend the virtue of the man unwilling to to be governed by political correctness, while distancing themselves from the words used. This has been Trump’s single greatest asset throughout his presidential run. Second, in a society–especially a diverse society of over 300 million people–we do need to self-censor ourselves.  Husbands don’t tell wives, and vice versa, what they’re thinking at every moment (nor are they tweeting those thoughts round the clock) because they understand that by saying that outfit does indeed make you look fat may not be a recipe for harmony within the home.

Similarly, within our neighborhoods, when we express ourselves outside our home, it runs the risk of sowing discord with our neighbors.  Think of an individual living in a largely desegregated neighborhood choosing to fly his confederate flag outside his home.  Certainly, in America, he has the right to fly his flag and express himself, but at what cost?  At what motive?  There should be an element of good judgment that at least understands the cause and effect of exercising rights.  Yes, you certainly can do it, but should you?

Ultimately, if you cannot stand your neighbors and have no desire to interact with those living near you, hoisting the flag may serve your interests, but it’s not conducive to harmony within the neighborhood.

Nations are made up of tens of thousands of such neighborhoods, stitched together.  When individuals, or groups, stop self-censoring–and worse, then they refuse to apologize for offending their neighbors, the bonds that make a people begin to fray. So while the appeal of a Trump is understandable, the net effect of too much admiration for his inability to exercise good judgment is to ultimately debase ourselves individually and undercut the ties that bind us as a nation.




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What’s a True Conservative to Do?

The current state of the campaign makes me sad that I didn’t spend a week in New Hampshire and have a chance to interview, or ask questions of, the candidates. I think I would have like to ask the following:

Senator/Governor/Businessperson/Doctor: you claim to have the market cornered on being the “only true conservative.” This term gets used so often, it’s meaning loses clarity. If you were elected, can you identify the following issues in the priority for your administration? Or if they are not a priority, please say so

  1. Climate Change – the Department of Defense has identified it as a security challenge that threatens future military planning and logistics.
  2. Taxation and the tax code – how will your tax policies impact the middle/working class of America – those that bear the largest percentage tax burden?
  3. Budget – what is the first year you intend to balance the budget in your administration?

Sub-question: Is it more important to balance the budget or cut taxes? Shouldn’t a decision on tax reform come after a balanced budget?

  1. National Debt. In order to begin chipping away at the Nation’s debt, an annual budget surplus must be established, above and beyond simply paying interest on the debt. What size annual surplus should be applied to resolving the debt? What is a healthy amount of debt to carry? How will your administration accomplish this?
  2. Health Care – though hardly a partisan issue, elected Republicans have been clear that the Affordable Care Act is an anathema. Repeal and replace has been a party slogan for several years. What do you intend to replace the ACA with and if repeal is done before replacement, how will this impact over 20+ millions of your citizens?
  3. Social Security. Entitlements are big targets for the Republican party. What exactly do you intend to do with regard to reforming Social Security – especially as the Baby Boomer generation and the beginning Generation Xers plan to retire during your administration (assuming your in office for 8 years?)
  4. Military and Defense – The U.S. military by any standard remains the envy of the world, yet each of you talk as though the military is broken and needs repair, Can you please explain?
  5. Would you increase, decrease or leave steady defense spending? If you plan to increase, what in the budget must be cut to pay for it?
  6. Veterans issues: What would you do to improve the Veterans Administration to ensure all our men and women that have served our nation receive the greatest care and benefits possible?
  7. Marriage Equality – several candidates have expressed this as a top priority for their administration to repeal marriage equality. Is this actually a Top 10 priority for you or just campaign rhetoric?

Bonus Question: Given the situation in Flint, Michigan and the lead in public drinking water caused by an aging and failing infrastructure, what would your administration do to address this and others throughout the country – especially if the costs of doing so could lead to additional budget imbalances and additional debt?


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Jonathan Slater – In Memorium

Jonathan Slater 1966-2016

Where to begin? It has to be from the beginning…

For me, that was 1977. I had just moved to Los Angeles from the L.A. suburbs. My parents were going through an acrimonious divorce. I’d bounced from school to school to school over the previous two years as my mother and father kept moving in the aftermath of their separation.

I landed at Ivanhoe Elementary School for 6th grade. My mother, and her sister Julie–having gone through her own divorce–rented a house to raise their four combined children: me, my sister, and my cousins. Ivanhoe was roughly two miles from my new home and I walked it most days.


6th Grade at Ivanhoe Elementary.  Jonathan was the tall kid with dark hair in the back row.  I was the doofy looking off his right shoulder.

My first day of school, knowing nothing about it or anyone going there for that matter, the teacher (can’t remember who that teacher was) assigned me to Jonathan Slater to show me the ropes around the school. I expected him–already a giant of a kid–to resent this additional duty of babysitting me. Me, this dorky 11 year year old with ridiculously long 1970’s hair and wearing hand me down clothes because we were incredibly poor. Instead, I experienced the character of Jonathan Slater for the first time. He not only took care of me, he befriended me and stayed close to me for the next 39 years.

I could highlight all the things we did, but instead, I’ll try to focus on him and how the things we did left impressions on me, shadows of him.

Jonathan introduced me to the Beatles. I mean, this was 1977-78, I knew of the Beatles – but not the way Jonathan knew the Beatles. He imparted his already vast 11-12 year old knowledge on me, forever making me a Lennon-McCartney fan. When I turned 12, we went to a Beatlemania concert at the Pantages theater for my birthday. To this day, I cannot listen to the Beatles without thinking of Jonathan.


Beatlemania tickets


Then I moved. I left California for Denver to start over, yet again. 1978, no internet, long distance phone calls were pricey – especially for a 12 year old. A cycle of falling out of touch began – a cycle that would continue over the course of our relationship.

My mother still lived in LA, so when I went to visit, I would always get back together with Jonathan. Seeing him was always the best part of going back to California. We saw each other throughout our teenage years for brief moments, keeping our friendship kindled.

Years later, when we were in our 20’s I came back through California as I was moving from Hawaii to Maryland. This time, married and with 2 kids. Kids? Jonathan couldn’t be more pleased – perfect excuse to go to Disneyland! You couldn’t know Jonathan and not know that he loved Disney – not just Land but the movies as well.



Jonathan with my mother, daughter Katrina, and sister Shannon at our wedding in 2002

He took Katrina, then 6, to see Alladin – what adult without kids wants to see Disney movies? Jonathan!

Years later, in our 30’s, the first marriage was over, but I was getting married again. It seemed only right that Jonathan needed to be there. He of course, dropped everything and flew out to Maryland to take part in our wedding and as an added bonus, he filmed it!

Ellen and Jonathan

Ellen and Jonathan – downtown Hollywood

Time for a tangent. Film. It was who he was. He loved the media. He worked most his adult life as a film editor – for Fox Sports – even though he was never a sports fan. He worked on numerous hit series including Entourage and My Name is Earl. He rubbed shoulders with movie stars, but never let that change him. One time he texted me a picture of him and a fat bearded guy. I had no idea who it was. I had to ask, who are you with – he texted back, “Ron Jeremy.” I immediately, responded with: “wash your hands!”

Jonathan and Me

Taking pictures of the Hollywood sign in 2010

In 2010–now in our 40’s, Ellen and I went to California and saw Jonathan for what would end being the last time. Yet another long gap in between seeing each other. We spent the night in his house in Silver Lake – on the opposite side of the reservoir of the house he grew up in. He played tour guide of LA for Ellen, taking her to our old haunts: the Chinese Theater, Hollywood and Vine, the home of the Oscars, Griffith Park, the Hollywood sign, and one of his favorite spots – the Hollywood Cemetery, where the stars reside. Of course we finished the tour at the Red Lion – because, that’s where you go!


Jonathan and Shannon

Jonathan passed away yesterday, 2 1/2 months short of his 50th birthday. You could always remember Jonathan’s birthday because it fell on April Fools Day. Always seemed appropriate to me, not because he was a practical joker, but he was always jovial and fun to be around. He had a charisma about him that attracted people to him, but moreover, he had an unlimited capacity to invest himself in his friends – unlike anything or anyone I’ve ever met.


Jonathan and Al Pacino

His Facebook page is loaded with comments from people that are hurting today because of his passing. Each of them, myself included, feel like we lost our best friend. It’s a remarkable testament to the man that so many people felt so close to him – and him to them! We hurt because we lost not just him, but that part of ourselves that felt the joy of being around him and knowing we’ll never have that again. It’s a void that we are unsure how we will ever fill or replace. People like Jonathan are incredibly hard to find, but when we do find them, you hold on to them as long as you can. In my case, it was 39 years.

It would be only fitting if Jonathan is laid to rest at the Hollywood Cemetery, he deserves his place among the stars.

These are my memories of a truly great friend.  I left out the little things that all add up – like going to Dodgers Stadium for All Star game warm-ups when we were kids.  How I practically lived at his home in 6th grade, spending days on the campus of UCLA where his mother was taking classes.  Seeing Roger Waters with him in 1987 right before I went in the Army.  So many memories – all that I’ll look back on and smile, with a twinge of regret that we will never build more together going forward.

Obituaries never capture the essence of the person.  Jonathan needs to be remembered by those who loved him in a way four inches of type can ever capture.  He touched so many lives.  I look forward to reading the diverse memories of his friends.  49 is far to young.  It wasn’t you that deserved more – it was us.  We are all emptier without you!




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Issue: How to address Iran’s nuclear aspirations

For what it’s worth, decided to publish my final paper for my Counterproliferation policy course.  Thought it turned out OK – ended the course with an A….

CounterProliferation Options Paper Iran Final 10 Dec 2015

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You Should Apologize!

I can’t believe I’m going to do this:  I’m going to defend Donald Trump.

No, I’m not supporting him, nor would I ever consider voting for him.  People that accuse Barrack Obama of acting like a dictator have no clue what a dictator looks like – but I guarantee he would have some awesome Trump-like hair…

I digress.  My defense of Trump lies in this new era we live in.  This post-politically correct world where every statement made is somehow offensive to someone and an apology is not just needed, but demanded.

When Donald Trump took a dig at John McCain’s war service, people across the political spectrum felt he owed McCain an apology.  My question is why?  For what?  Saying what he thinks?  Was it a shitty comment?  You betchya!  But it was how he felt.  Why does he owe McCain an apology — especially if he believes what he says?

Part of Trump’s appeal is in his anti-PC rhetoric.  The fact he says what’s on his mind without seeing where the political wind of public opinion is blowing.  He’s offensive, he’s a blowhard, he’s rude.  That’s his schtick.  Why does he need to utter a worthless apology to anyone, or any group he offends if he is simply stating his opinion on something?

No one demands that the Klu Klax Klan Imperial Wizard Grand Poobaa apologize for his ridiculous views on racial superiority.  Does Trump owe Rosie O’Donnell an apology for the things he said about her?  Does he owe Megan Kelley an apology?  I’ll opine that Trump owes no one an apology for anything he says unless he truly felt it to be over the top and he desires to attempt to take it back.

This “I’m offended” world we live in is amazing assault on the freedom of speech.  There are so many words now on the list that must not be uttered – from the N-word to the R-word, to the F-word.  Granted when I hear them actually said aloud, it makes me look twice at the person saying it – but I’d rather know that that is how they wish to articulate themselves – it helps me determine whether or not I should continue to socialize with them.

If they played by the PC rules, one would never know…

I’ve counseled one of my co-workers for the repeated use of “retard” or “retarded.”  Not because he’s necessarily wrong – he means to be offensive with his characterization.  No, he’s not trying to be offensive to people with special needs – he’s trying to offend semi-smart people that do things in a less than smart way.  If pressed to make an apology, I think his response would be along the lines of:  “Hey, I’m sorry I called you retarded – I didn’t mean to suggest that you were a special needs person (that would be offensive to special needs people) – I was simply trying to say the decision you made was incredibly stupid and ill thought out.”

Now he probably needs to apologize for saying that the person made an incredibly stupid decision.

I’ve explained to him that he cannot use the R-word – not because I disagree with the use — after all, I drive in Washington DC rush hours 10 times a week.  I explain that if I cannot use the word, neither can he.  After all, I’ve been cowered by the PC police to no longer use specific words as well.

We’ve entered a twilight zone in America where college professors must let the young adults pursuing higher education know in advance if something might upset them.  We have to have “safe rooms” where, once emotionally disturbed, these adults can go rock themselves in to an emotional coma.

Social Justice Warriors – the epitome of the intolerant left – have been driving this train.  An interesting article in The Atlantic this week described the college comedy circuit and how comedians are changing their acts in order to offend no one — or at least as few as possible.

I guess in the end, people have every right to be offended by the opinions of others.  But in a country why free speech is a pinnacle of our identity, stifling speech – or demanding one apologize for their opinions uttered aloud or on the Twitter – strikes me as amazingly Orwellian.

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Just Who Do You Think We Are?

In his dissent to Obergefell v. Hodges – the case to expand the franchise of marriage to same-sex couples – Chief Justice John Roberts asked “Just who do you think we are?” Calling the majority’s decision “an act of will, not legal judgment.”

“It is not about whether, in my judgment, the institution of marriage should be changed to include same-sex couples,” he said. “It is instead about whether, in our democratic republic, that decision should rest with the people acting through their elected representatives, or with five lawyers who happen to hold commissions authorizing them to resolve legal disputes under the law.” – Chief Justice John Roberts

Based on his words, using his logic, the Chief Justice — along with his colleagues Alito, Thomas and Scalia – would not have dared to have intervened in Loving v. Virginia – the case that ended anti-miscegenation laws in the U.S. Roberts went on to say “The people of a state are free to expand marriage to include same-sex couples, or to retain the historic definition,” and that the court’s decision to legalize same-sex marriage was “stealing this issue from the people.”

The simple application of his “logic” would have left the question of interracial marriage in the hands of the voters – or more specifically, in the hands of individual state voters.


In 1966, the year I was born, nearly one third of the country had laws – actively enforced – preventing interracial marriage. In the case of Loving, Richard and Mildred were married in Washington DC in 1958. However, they were Virginia residents – when they moved back to their home state, their marriage was not only not recognized, it was deemed illegal. It took 9 years for their case to wind its way through the lower courts before the Supreme Court ruling struck down the ban in Virginia and the remaining states.

Surely, popular opinion must have been on the forefront, guiding the court in reaching its decision. After all, Roberts indicates that the court should not steal such an issue from the people. What was “the mood of the people” with regard to interracial marriage?

As a nation, we didn’t even hit the majority of approval until 1996ish – nearly 30 years after Loving!!! At the time, only a scant one out of five people supported mixed-race marriages. Approval continues to rise; however, 13% of Americans continue to disapprove of interracial marriages – how are they characterized today? Narrow-minded? Bigots? Simpletons? Or do we just tend to ignore them altogether as people that time forgot?

Too often, we view history through a prism of something happened, then everything changed and we moved on. The Civil Rights movement effectively ended when Martin Luther King was assassinated. The fight over interracial marriage ended on 12 June 1967 with the Warren court’s unanimous decision to wipe out anti-miscegenation laws.

Sadly, there was was no internet around in 1967 – I searched as best I could for reactionary quotes to the Warren decision. At best, we can see reflections of dissent and rebellion to the court’s decision. Two and one half years after Loving, Alabama continued to fight its cause in preventing blacks and whites from marrying one another.

Indeed, in the wake of Loving, states attempted to pass laws continuing the practice of racial purity marriages. The matter was hardly resolved in one day based on the supreme court’s ruling. In fact, Alabama did not formally amend its constitution until 2000, ending anti-miscegenation law (if not practice).

It comes as little surprise that the same areas and the same people that fought tooth and nail against interracial marriage are again at the forefront of the expansion of the franchise. Only this time, the numbers are not in their favor. Unlike the public’s attitude to interracial marriage, public opinion on marriage equality is overwhelmingly in favor of same sex marriage.

Despite the moaning and lamentations of those that see this as the “darkest day in American history,” (Thanks Ted Cruz…) this day was inevitable once the first same sex couple was married in Massachusetts in 2003. Rights cannot be selectively granted for one group while denied to another. Likewise, marriages that were legally performed in states that previously permitted marriage equality could not not be recognized by states selectively banning marriages.

Now the battle will take a turn. Already evangelical marriage equality opponents are reframing the argument around religious freedom, attempting to make the case that discrimination should be condoned by the government based on religious views. I can hardly think of a more convincing reason for congregants of such bigoted efforts to continue to abandon their religious views. According to the latest Pew Religious Landscape study, more Americans identify with no religion than ever before. The millennial generation accounting for the highest percentage across the board. It’s the equivalent of cutting off the nose to spite the face.

What’s worse, these evangelical bigots – touting their love for Jesus – give the millions of marriage equality supporting-Christians a black eye. This reaction to the Supreme Court’s ruling has nothing to do with Christianity, other than the cloak they use to disguise their homophobia, hate, and/or latent homosexuality and self-loathing. They should be called out on it at every opportunity.

My generation was bitterly divided over something that should have been so clear and right. The majority believed that what the judge said, that it was God’s plan to keep people apart, and that government should discriminate against people in love. But I have lived long enough now to see big changes. The older generation’s fears and prejudices have given way, and today’s young people realize that if someone loves someone they have a right to marry.

Surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by that I don’t think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me to have that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the “wrong kind of person” for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, no matter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom to marry. Government has no business imposing some people’s religious beliefs over others. Especially if it denies people’s civil rights. – Mildred Loving

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Thoughts on Baltimore

We always try to make sense of what we see and hear. We tend to process this incoming information, through the filter that is our worldview – based on our experiences, knowledge, and understanding. The events confronting Baltimore today are a great example. Some people will see the violence and riots as an outcome associated with the protests over the murder of Freddy Gray and feel that law enforcement officers should crack down harder on thugs that threaten the peace. Others will see the same images and think that if Baltimore police and the city government were not corrupt, none of this would have happened in the first place.

What’s happening in Baltimore is not easy to process through a black or white view (pardon the pun). It is mired in grayness, and that never makes people comfortable. The communities that bore the brunt of the riots have a long history of over policing and negative encounters with law enforcement officials – which makes it incredibly similar to Ferguson, Missouri. To put it bluntly, there is neither respect, nor trust, within the community for police. They are not seen as peacekeepers or protectors – rather, as a predatory threat that could strike out at any moment. Is it any wonder that Freddy Gray ran after making eye contact with a police officer? [It should be said here that even today, after all that has transpired, we still have no idea why Freddy Gray was arrested or what he did to warrant being handcuffed, thrown in to a truck and ultimately die.]

Many are horrified that police have been taunted and injured by rioters. These same people, almost instinctively, share their support for law enforcement on their social media posts, characterizing the “agitators” as thugs that should be dealt with in the harshest of ways. Some see these views as covert racism, substituting “thug” for “the N word.” While not condoning the violence, or the destruction, of the rioters – they’ve not lost sight of the fact that Freddy Gray died while in police custody. They feel that the auto-adoration of law enforcement obscures the very reason people took to the streets in the first place.

Stepping inside the gray, immersing yourself in the grayness, you might see that there is just a whole lot wrong with Baltimore (along with every municipality in this country), our police forces, and the very social contract citizens have with their government.

Let’s start with the police – and acknowledge up front that they have a difficult job, and serve a vital role in protecting our communities. Without them, we would essentially live in a libertarian utopia, or chaos. The system breaks down for a number of reasons – not all of which are linearly linked. First of all, municipal funding for law enforcement, and the public legal system, is dependent on revenues generated by fines and court costs. Second, our legislatures and city councils are constantly passing new laws for police to enforce – each of which have monetary fines associated with them. So we’ve created the perfect environment for systemic corruption. Throw on top of it, the outsourcing for incarceration, and you have the perfect storm.

Even when police just do their jobs, communities suffer. People must be arrested, fed in to the judicial system, forced to pay or go to jail. The system demands this. If, all of a sudden, everyone simply abided by the law, the entire apparatus would crumble to the ground. Lost revenues would force layoffs. But that’s never going to happen – especially as long as legislators pass new laws for enforcement to snare unwitting citizens.

This doesn’t even take into consideration that – just like in any profession – there are just straight out bad cops. But the final piece of the puzzle – police unions – make it impossible to get rid of even the worst of them. Good cops know who they are – just like good teachers know who bad teachers are, or good soldiers know who the dirtbags are. This is just a fact of life. Not every cop is a hero, nor is every soldier a hero. Sometimes, they are just pieces of shit that get by because the system allows them to.

This makes Baltimore just like any other city in America. With areas of the city that are economically depressed and systemically repressed. The fact that riots took place shouldn’t be surprising – what should be surprising is that they didn’t happen sooner or more often. Our local governments and the apparatuses that serve themselves and not the citizenry have led us to where we are today. It’s a classic case of don’t blame the player, blame the game. Police are by and large simply doing their best to do their jobs and get home to their families after their shifts.

What we need to do is take a strong look at the root causes of the system and how the social contract has become null and void in favor of generating revenue. But to do so would require us to move from the security of our pre-formed opinions and jumping feet first into the uncomfortable gray – and no one wants to do that…

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Houston, We have a Problem

It’s been a bit since I last felt I needed to make sense of the craziness around me.

Indiana, oh Indiana…. What to make of you?

You let the religious nuts off the leash and look what you got – a crazy law that now needs tweaking to keep people (read: dollars) from pulling out of your state.

It was a well calculated, but stupid, move that put you in the nation’s crosshairs. Amazingly, drawing attention away from the “twelve states (Arkansas, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Michigan, Mississippi, Nebraska, North Dakota, Ohio, South Dakota, Tennessee, and Texas), as well as two territories (Puerto Rico and the Virgin Islands), prohibit the licensing of same-sex marriages and their recognition from other jurisdictions. Michigan recognizes 323 same-sex marriages performed on March 22, 2014 in the state, the only day the ban was legally unenforceable.”

It’s almost admirable that so many have stood up to Indiana, making clear their disdain for legalized discrimination. The NFL, NCAA, individual states, businesses, rock bands, etc., have all made it clear that while the law stands they will reevaluate their business dealings with Indiana – all the while, continuing to happily do business with the 12 states that continue to practice discrimination at its highest form – not allowing people to marry the ones they love based on sexual identity.

And Maryland, my Maryland – you stoop to woo those disenchanted with the Hoosier state, offended by a Freedom of Religion law – yet you built in the same verbiage in to the very act legalizing marriage equality in Maryland.

Gentle reminder – the words that Maryland voters were presented on Question 6 in 2012:

Establishes that Maryland’s civil marriage laws allow gay and lesbian couples to obtain a civil marriage license, provided they are not otherwise prohibited from marrying; protects clergy from having to perform any particular marriage ceremony in violation of their religious beliefs; affirms that each religious faith has exclusive control over its own theological doctrine regarding who may marry within that faith; and provides that religious organizations and certain related entities are not required to provide goods, services, or benefits to an individual related to the celebration or promotion of marriage in violation of their religious beliefs.

“Related entities” includes things like photographers, bakeries, florists, etc. – you know, those marriage-related businesses that cannot be forced to engage in commerce with gay folk…

I know, it was expedient and necessary in order to pass the referendum in to law. Sacrifices needed to be made – but come on. Please explain to me how this is any different from Indiana’s law? Seriously, I need someone to explain it to me!

It’s 2015, at least last time I checked my watch – isn’t it time to come to grips with the reality that marriage equality’s time has come for the entire country. Wasting useless energy and time to fight a battle that’s essentially over is counterproductive to solving the bigger issues that confront us as a nation.


If we really want to invest in fighting discriminatory practices – shouldn’t we be putting the focus on the states that continue to hold freedom at bay? Yep – looking at you Arkansas, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Michigan, Mississippi, Nebraska, North Dakota, Ohio, South Dakota, Tennessee, and Texas. Time for every corporation, state, politician, and person that looked down their noses at Indiana (where marriage equality is legal by the way) to turn their attentions on these discriminatory loving states.

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Quick Thoughts on our Costa Rica Vacation

For several years now, I’ve had a dream.  A dream of relocating, post retirement, to a place where the weather is warm year round and where the cost of living is such that my retirement dollar would stretch nicely.  Costa Rica seemed to be that place!

Last summer, I booked a trip for the first week of March – specifically timed to escape the cold winter I must of had a premonition of. After one of the coldest February’s in recent memory, March 1st arrived and our vacation was underway.

We landed in San Jose and immediately reveled in the warmth.  I think it was still in the teens when we departed Reagan National and all of a sudden we’re standing in 80 degrees.  It felt like heaven🙂

We booked a little home for the week outside of Nuevo Arenal, north of San Jose.  We needed to arrive around 6pm in order to meet Henry, the grounds keeper to pick up the keys and get settled in – so we began our drive straight away from the rental car company.

On that note – I should advise if you plan to visit Costa Rica and choose to rent a vehicle – be forewarned – I used to rent an SUV, as advised by our landlord (good call).  I thought I had a great rate of roughly $250 for the week.  This ended up being $660 based on the mandatory insurance coverages.  You could probably get it for less, but the deal was they would put a hold on your credit card for varying amounts — up to $5,000 if you select a cheaper insurance option.

So that put me in a good mood as we started off on our journey.  The mountains soon turned to elevated rain forest and through rain, and twisty roads, we slowly made our way up to La Fortuna and finally our destination – Nuevo Arenal.

The route from Fortuna to Arenal is a long winding two lane paved (for the most part) road that twists its way along the northern banks of Lake Arenal.  I was heartened when I saw the signs saying it was roughly 30 kilometers to reach Arenal – but given that I was barely averaging 40 kilometers on the drive, it was bound to take a while.

The fun began the following day.  We decided to head to The Springs for a day pass in their hot springs.  I’d seen their website previous to the trip and fell in love with the swim up bar


The poolside bar at The Springs with the Arenal Volcano in the distance.


One of the many hot spring pools at The Springs – this one surrounded by jungle.

We ended up spending 2 days at The Springs – their day pass included the next day free – which was a pretty decent deal🙂.  If you get the opportunity – highly recommend visiting, though staying the night there is pretty pricey!

Next stop was the ocean – Playa de Coco. The beach was nice – and the Pacific was its usual cold self.


Me tentatively approaching the water…

The route to the ocean includes a stretch one Highway One from Canas to Liberia.  On a map, you might assume it’s a four lane highway – in reality, though construction has obviously been taking place for several years, it’s still a work in progress.  Reduced to a two lane highway while construction continues on the other side, it’s a constant game of leap frog hopping slower traffic.



So the roads suck – take it as a given, then add in wildlife


Tomalucas checking out the traffic hoping for a handout


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Toucans are plentiful – though the only ones we saw were in cages.


Costa Rica prides itself on it’s greenness, deriving 100% of it’s power on a combination of hydro, wind, and solar.


Overlooking Lake Arenal


So I mentioned that the roads sucked – but it downplays just how bad some of the stretches were.  The house we rented was roughly 2 miles off the main road – unpaved, predominately laden with rocks and potholes.  Fortunately we had a four wheel drive – just for the clearance.  Unbelievably, there were cars, and motorbikes trekking up and down this stretch.

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After a week, I’m not sold on Costa Rica being the place I want to retire to.  The weather was fantastic.  Many great things to do – ranging from beaches to zip lining over the jungle and of course, relaxing in the hot springs.  On the downside, it was a bit of a shock to see how expensive food was.  Every restaurant we ate at was pretty pricey.  After the first day, we went to the market and bought our own breakfast fixings and fruit.  Even the supermarket prices were in line with what you pay in the U.S.  When we were in Playa de Coco we stopped in to an Auto Mercado – one of the bigger chain stores comparable to a smaller Safeway or King Soopers – and many recognizable American brand items ran about twice as much as back home.

People we spoke with along the way mentioned that land and services are pretty cheap, but food, furnishings and vehicles can be pretty expensive.

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